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Click With Him by Emily McKay
LONG DISTANCE/ONLINE DATING DILEMMA
Hello Emily:
Ok, i messed up BIG TIME.
I met this fabulous man online we had amazing
conversations, deep, philosophical, fun n more. I
live on the east coast, he on the
west.
Robert asked to fly to me several times, i said no
because i am overweight unlike those girls that go
through every
bulimia treatment resource
known to man, and afraid to tell him that. He's an
entertainer.
He called me from JFK Airport telling me he loves me
and to meet him (He flew to Italy via NY for
vacation) and again i refused to meet him.
The other strange thing is in the interim of his
silence another man started writing me asking me if
i am alone or dating? Turns out its one of his best
friends (steve) - who also asked to meet me in NY!)
My intuition tells me Robert put steve up to this to
find out more about me. (Which tells me he is still
focused on me, yes or no? ) I have fallen in love
with this man and trying to get over my
insecurities.
Robert stopped talking to me and not answering my
emails (only 3 didn't want to bombard him)
WHAT DO I DO NOW? HOW DO I GET HIM TO BREAK THE
SILENCE?
HELP ME NOW PLZZZZZZZZZZZZ
No Name In New York
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Dear No Name In New York:
OK, what I'm about to tell you may possibly include
some things you don't want to hear, but if you're
going to be successful at online dating, I really do
hope you'll at least give what I'm about to say some
thought.
If you have put accurate pictures on your profile
and have interacted via webcam with Robert then your
insecurity about your weight is unfounded. If he has
a realistic picture of who he's going to meet, then
you should get over your insecurity.
On the other hand, if your profile pictures do not
represent the current version of you then you have
essentially been deceitful.
While it's true that many, many more men prefer
curvier women than you'd probably guess, the secret
here is to make sure you are attracting the ones
with your profile who would be attracted to you in
real life.
Portraying yourself accurately in an online profile
is an absolute must. Otherwise the entire system
breaks down.
Robert is most likely not online to make "pen pals".
He's there to actually meet women. When he offered
to fly to meet you several times and you refused,
that honestly should have been his first clue that
you we're concerned about disappointing him.
When he is actually IN New York and hoping to meet
you--and you still refuse--what does he have left to
go on? I'm sure he was greatly disappointed if not
utterly frustrated.
So I'm hard pressed to blame him for not
communicating with you further.
Now as far as Steve goes, my first thought is that
if he has gone ahead and told you he's Robert's
friend then his contact to you is with Robert's
blessing.
Notwithstanding that, he must not value his
friendship with Robert
much. Either that or there's game-playing going on
as you suspect.
But ALL of the above is really of little consequence
considering the "big picture".
The heart of the matter is this: Why in the WORLD
are you searching for men in Los Angeles when you
life in the largest metro area in the United States?
(!!!)
It really appears that your insecurity about weight
is relegating your online experience to nothing more
than e-mail exchanges and perhaps phone
conversations that offer you the temporary
butterflies of having received attention from men.
But without the intent of actually meeting anyone,
you are only kidding yourself by indulging yourself
in such vicarious thrills.
Not only are you deceiving men who could mean well,
you are now coming face to face with the fact that
the emotions you begin to feel are very real.
And all you've done is set yourself up for
heartbreak. It's as if you've "painted yourself into
a corner" as the saying goes.
My encouragement to you is very simple. Simple, but
perhaps not easy.
Boldly represent yourself as accurately as you can
in your profile.
Take brand new pictures of yourself dressed as
stylishly as you can, indoors in a naturally-lit
environment.
Be sure to smile your warmest and most confident
smile. Think of yourself as a celebrity posing for
your "autograph picture" to be signed and handed out
to your adoring fans.
And then, agree to trust that the men you attract
genuinely want to meet you. And trust yourself to
have the courage to meet those men in person. And
please...stick to the New York metro area (or the
Tri-State area, at least).
One more very important step.
If you really do believe that you are not the best
version of yourself to attract a man, make a
decision RIGHT NOW to become that person.
Do not be passive about this, but instead take
control of your life, your health and your future
happiness. This is how you begin to deserve what you
want and attract the kind of man you dream of...for
real this time.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
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Getting e-mails like the one highlighted in today's
newsletter reminds me of how COMPLICATED online
dating can get if we allow it to be.
But I promise you that it doesn't have to be like
that.
One of the ways I've made Click With Him extra
special for you is by including TONS of secrets on
how to become the absolute ultimate version of YOU
that you can be.
In other words, I show you very practical ways you
can really, truly become the woman who men are
attracted to immediately and want to commit to after
getting to know better.
And since I've personally lived through lots of
dating frustration myself, I wrapped it all with
PLENTY of encouragement.
Truly, there's nothing I want more than for YOU to
experience the incredible fulfillment of ACTUALLY
MEETING a great man, Vanessa ...and having him be
THRILLED that he did so!
If you haven't yet read about Click With Him, now is
the time:
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In fact, if you've experienced any kind of
frustration at all with online dating I'm ready to
help YOU succeed.
And if you just need that extra boost to help you
actually try online dating for the first time? Then
you'll be amazed by how easy I can help make a great
online dating experience happen for you.
From there, I'll open the gate to the entire
Member's Area for you...
including all TWELVE HOURS of audio and video, plus
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Here's that link again:
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Isn't it time for you to discover the 21st century
way to meet great men?
I'll be writing to you again soon.
Have Fun,
Emily McKay
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